How to Engage an Argument - a Theological Perspective

I have noticed that very few people know how to argue and debate well.  Most "discussions" on volatile topics simply become screaming matches where each side continually repeats the same points and mocks the opposing view point.  At some point the character of both sides are questioned by the other and a whole lot of red herrings and non-sequitur statements seem to follow.  So I thought it would be fitting to consider the concept of a reasoned logical argument from a theological perspective.  Now I want to be clear that I am not just speaking of theological arguments (though those are certainly included), but of any argument on any position.  Common in today's news would include political arguments, gun control, arguments on human sexuality, etc.

Step 1 - determine the importance of the argument. 

There are some issues that are worth arguing to the death.  For instance, Christ is the only way to God the Father.  This is a worthwhile discussion and argument.  Issues of morality should always trump political preference.  The best way that I know to determine what your priorities in this matter should be is to look to the Word of God and the example of Jesus.  There were some things that He stood firm upon. And then there were things like political issues - taxation, that he did not argue so vehemently against.  There are things in Scripture that we are to hold very tightly, and a lot of things that we are to be free to have an educated opinion on but the freedom to disagree, even as believers.  We must be discerning enough to know that the value of human life is more critical in an argument than a personal opinion, which brings us to step 2 - maybe the most important step.

Step 2 - remember we are interacting with fellow Image Bearers.

We are not arguing against a computer (though if you do your arguments online it may feel like it) - we are arguing with people.  This means that their understanding of who they are as a creation in God's image is far more important than us proving we are right at the expense of their feelings and dignity.  We should not ever attempt to make people feel or look stupid as a means of invalidating their argument.  If you have to do this, you have not truly understood the Scriptures as God has given them to us.  We are to serve others, love others, put others first, forgive them, speak pure words to them, encourage them etc. These clear commands of Scripture are far more critical than being right. 

Step 3 - remember your own character.

We need to remember in our discussion that we are representing Christ to this world.  Therefore in what we say and more importantly how we say it, people are going to see us representing Christ.  What will they think of Christ if they base it off of are discussions with them on hot-topic issues?  Will they think that Christ's number one priority was the right to bear arms?  Will they think that Christ only voted for a particular party?  Or will they see that no matter the issue they are thinking about that Christ loved them with an everlasting love that is calling them into relationship with God through the blood of Christ?

These are just a few things to think about the next time you talk to someone about something you are passionate about, or as you are about to post a snarky remark online.  Remember that there is more at stake for us as believers than winning an argument and that we need to engage our world, and our argumentation theologically!