I have often been amazed how much I can delude myself into thinking that I am in control of things that I have absolutely zero control over. I have made just a short list:
I am not in control of how other people respond to me.
I am not in control of what other people think and feel.
I am not in control of what happens on any given day.
I am not in control of what my circumstances are or will be.
I am not in control of what trials God chooses to send my way.
I am not in control of what blessings God chooses to send my way.
I am not in control over the choices of others.
And the list could go on. I find it is helpful to remind myself of these things because if I do not it might affect how I think and feel about any of these items. But realistically I have no control over them and so I should not stress about avoiding, preventing or causing any of them. But I do have some semblance of control over how I respond to these things. In fact, God calls me to respond in particular ways to these events and I am responsible to follow His will for me as I engage this world - even if I do not have as much control as I think I do.